{"id":14845,"date":"2018-01-07T21:23:47","date_gmt":"2018-01-07T20:23:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shekulliagency.com\/?p=14845"},"modified":"2018-02-07T22:24:29","modified_gmt":"2018-02-07T21:24:29","slug":"nxenesi-si-person","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/?p=14845","title":{"rendered":"Nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi si person"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"kla-54433\"<\/a>M\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnia \u00ebsht\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie midis personit t\u00eb \u00e7do m\u00ebsuesi dhe personit t\u00eb \u00e7do nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi n\u00eb ve\u00e7anti. Kjo se klasa \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri personash dhe jo nj\u00eb grup kompakt uniform. Besoj se detyra e par\u00eb e m\u00ebsuesit nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb transmetimi i njohurive, shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, por krijimi i nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje personale me \u00e7do nx\u00ebn\u00ebs, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ta ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb n\u00eb pah karakteristikat e ve\u00e7anta t\u00eb personit t\u00eb tij. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb do t\u00eb japim te f\u00ebmij\u00ebt stimuj t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr m\u00ebsim q\u00eb do t\u2019i mbartin gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. Q\u00ebllimi \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb duan m\u00ebsimin dhe ta k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb n\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre, akoma dhe kur do ken\u00eb mbaruar vitet e shkoll\u00ebs. N\u00eb \u00e7do mar\u00ebdh\u00ebnie rolet e marr\u00ebsit dhe t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00ebsit t\u00eb mesazheve jan\u00eb alternative. Kurr\u00eb, n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pal\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00ebsi dhe tjetra pal\u00eb marr\u00ebsi. Vall\u00eb, a e kemi konceptuar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb gjat\u00eb m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnies? K\u00ebrkojm\u00eb nga nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit t\u00eb na d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb me v\u00ebmendje dhe nevrikosemi kur kjo gj\u00eb nuk ndodh. Kemi menduar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00ebse ne i d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb? N\u00ebse i japim mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb shprehen? Sepse ndoshta me goj\u00eb ua k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb, por duhet se pari t\u00eb kemi krijuar nj\u00eb lidhje lirie, dashurie dhe respekti, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi t\u00eb ndiej\u00eb siguri dhe t\u00eb shprehet.<\/p>\n

Vet\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebgjim. Por shum\u00eb her\u00eb, p\u00ebr arsye qe t\u00eb mbulojm\u00eb l\u00ebnd\u00ebn gjat\u00eb or\u00ebs s\u00eb m\u00ebsimit, fillojm\u00eb nj\u00eb monolog t\u00eb zgjatur, ku nuk \u201cd\u00ebgjojm\u00eb\u201d as mesazhet pa fjal\u00eb q\u00eb na d\u00ebrgojn\u00eb nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet zhurm\u00ebs, indiferenc\u00ebs, mohimit.<\/p>\n

Lejom\u00ebni t\u00eb referoj nj\u00eb eksperienc\u00eb q\u00eb kisha vjet kur jepja m\u00ebsim n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjimnaz n\u00eb Kret\u00eb. Isha m\u00ebsuesja kujdestare n\u00eb klas\u00ebn e dyt\u00eb ku shumica e nx\u00ebn\u00ebsve ishin t\u00eb l\u00ebvizsh\u00ebm dhe n\u00eb nivel t\u00eb ul\u00ebt. Para or\u00ebs s\u00eb gjuh\u00ebs greke t\u00eb lasht\u00eb, nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit b\u00ebnin matematik\u00eb me nj\u00eb m\u00ebsuese t\u00eb re e cila nuk kishte arritur t\u00eb lidhej me nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit p\u00ebr arsye t\u00eb munges\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

K\u00ebshtu ishte zhvilluar konkurrenca dhe dyshimi midis tyre. Nj\u00eb her\u00eb, kur hyra n\u00eb klas\u00eb p\u00ebr m\u00ebsim, i gjeta nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit q\u00eb ndienin padrejt\u00ebsi nga m\u00ebsuesja, n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb tensionuar dhe t\u00eb zem\u00ebruar. Kisha dy zgjidhje. T\u00eb vendos qet\u00ebsi n\u00eb klas\u00eb dhe t\u00eb vazhdoja m\u00ebsimin, meq\u00ebn\u00ebse nuk kisha mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb humbas or\u00eb, pasi ishte l\u00ebnd\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb dhe ishim pas. Ose t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoja nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqesha t\u2019i qet\u00ebsoja ata. Zgjodha t\u00eb dyt\u00ebn. Fillimisht, lash\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb shpreheshin lirsh\u00ebm, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoja se \u00e7far\u00eb ndienin dhe pastaj iu thash\u00eb: \u201c Nuk kam t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn t\u00eb komentoj\u00eb asgj\u00eb p\u00ebr kolegen, kur ajo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb tani k\u00ebtu dhe nuk mund t\u00eb na thot\u00eb se si ajo e sheh gjendjen. Le t\u00eb supozojm\u00eb se gj\u00ebrat jan\u00eb ashtu si\u00e7 i p\u00ebrshkruani.<\/p>\n

Keni kuptuar q\u00eb dhe ju mirrni pjes\u00eb tek procesi i m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnies?<\/p>\n

Keni menduar q\u00eb mund t\u00eb keni p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi?<\/p>\n

Q\u00eb keni t\u00eb drejt\u00eb dhe ju vlen m\u00ebsim i cil\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe q\u00eb duhet ta k\u00ebrkoni me m\u00ebnyra q\u00eb kan\u00eb rerzultat?<\/p>\n

Le t\u00eb shohim se si mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen gjith\u00eb k\u00ebto\u2026\u201d Vijoi nj\u00eb dialog ku nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit shprehnin kund\u00ebrshtime q\u00eb dal\u00ebngadal\u00eb u qet\u00ebsuan, meq\u00ebn\u00ebse u jepej nj\u00eb an\u00eb tjet\u00ebr shikimi ku konceptonin se kishte t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb brenda saj. N\u00eb takimin tjet\u00ebr m\u00eb thane: \u201cNuk kishim detyra m\u00ebsuese, sepse nuk b\u00ebm\u00eb m\u00ebsim radh\u00ebn e kaluar\u201d iu p\u00ebrgjigja: \u201cGaboni!<\/p>\n

Harruat se sa gj\u00ebra t\u00eb reja m\u00ebsuam se si duhet t\u00eb reagojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb?\u201d Ndoshta humba nj\u00eb or\u00eb m\u00ebsimi, por fitova n\u00eb lidhjen time me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. U forcua besimi i tyre ndaj personit tim dhe m\u00ebsimet e tjera vazhduan shum\u00eb m\u00eb leht\u00eb dhe u mbulua edhe humbja e or\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

Esht\u00eb e nevojshme t\u00eb konsiderojm\u00eb \u00e7do nx\u00ebn\u00ebs si person. T\u00eb zbulojm\u00eb ve\u00e7antit\u00eb e tij. Talentet dhe dob\u00ebsit\u00eb e tij. N\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatim dhe k\u00ebrkesat tona. Dhe k\u00ebtu mund t\u00eb perdoret ajo q\u00eb tham\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim, q\u00eb shoq\u00ebrit\u00eb n\u00eb zon\u00ebn ton\u00eb jan\u00eb heterogjene duhet edhe t\u00eb njohim gjendjen familjare t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, q\u00eb shpesh ka rolin kryesor n\u00eb sjelljen e tij. Duhet t\u00eb ndihemi si dirigjent\u00eb, duhet t\u2019i harmonizojn\u00eb tingujt e ndrysh\u00ebm t\u00eb \u00e7do instrumenti. Nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit tan\u00eb jan\u00eb instrumente t\u00eb ndryshme q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb nxjerrim n\u00eb pah. Hipokrati, ky mjek i madh, thoshte se nuk ekzistonin s\u00ebmundje, por pacient\u00eb. Nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi, pra, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb kuptim abstrakt, por Seda, Durim, Vjosa, Besa, Arba\u2026<\/p>\n

Besoj se detyra e par\u00eb e m\u00ebsuesit nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb transmetimi i njohurive, shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, por krijimi i nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje personale me \u00e7do nx\u00ebn\u00ebs, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ta ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb n\u00eb pah karakteristikat e ve\u00e7anta t\u00eb personit t\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n

Si dhe p\u00ebrkat\u00ebsisht pjes\u00eb e sistemit arsimor q\u00eb shpesh kritikojm\u00eb, jemi ne. Kemi p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb tone t\u00eb madhe se n\u00ebse nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi do t\u00eb doj\u00eb m\u00ebsimin apo jo. Ne kemi mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb vendosim ngjyra te shkolla gri. Kemi mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb kthejm\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb pa fytyr\u00eb n\u00eb di\u00e7ka personale. Me p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn time t\u00eb vog\u00ebl pash\u00eb se sa g\u00ebzoheshin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt kur u rr\u00ebfeja nj\u00eb ngjarje t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr nga jeta ime me at\u00eb q\u00eb thoshim n\u00eb m\u00ebsim. Jo n\u00eb kurriz t\u00eb m\u00ebsimit. Ndienin se i b\u00ebja pjes\u00eb t\u00eb personit tim. Se nuk \u00e7oja mure t\u00eb larta midis nesh. N\u00eb vazhdim, ndienin sigurin\u00eb t\u00eb hapnin dal\u00ebngadal\u00eb dhe ata zemr\u00ebn e tyre. Duke njohur bot\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb brendshme, mund t\u2019i ndihmojm\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb. Dhe m\u00ebnyra m\u00eb e shpejt\u00eb dhe rezultative t\u00eb ket\u00eb sukses m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnia, \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb frym\u00ebzosh nx\u00ebn\u00ebsin dhe jo ta frik\u00ebsosh at\u00eb. P\u00ebrdor k\u00ebto histori t\u00eb vogla me konkluzione pozitive, gjithnj\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje me m\u00ebsimin. Kur shoh q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt jan\u00eb lodhur, sepse jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira ato q\u00eb u shpjegoj, ose ishin t\u00eb p\u00ebrq\u00ebndruar n\u00eb m\u00ebsim p\u00ebr mjaft or\u00eb dhe nuk kan\u00eb m\u00eb fuqi, n\u00eb vend t\u00eb filloj t\u00eb b\u00ebrtas dhe t\u2019i qortoj q\u00eb nuk m\u00eb ndjekin m\u00eb, filloj dhe i them nj\u00eb histori t\u00eb vog\u00ebl: \u201cKur isha e vog\u00ebl, nj\u00eb her\u00eb bashk\u00eb me v\u00ebllan\u00eb tim\u2026\u201d Esht\u00eb e pabesueshme se si t\u00eb ndjekin dhe ndalojn\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Qeshin, \u00e7lodhen dhe n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb natyrshme, pa mundim fillojm\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebri m\u00ebsimin. Mos t\u2019i trembemi njohjes personale me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Mos t\u00eb jemi si sht\u00ebpi me dritare dhe dyer t\u00eb mbyllura n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb hermetike. Le t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb marrim nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr formimin e personit ton\u00eb. Ndoshta sa tham\u00eb m\u00eb lart\u00eb duken teorike, ose t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira n\u00eb zbatim. E dim\u00eb q\u00eb ekzistojn\u00eb shum\u00eb probleme n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, \u00e7do dit\u00eb n\u00eb praktik\u00eb. Q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jemi njer\u00ebz me problemet tona dhe b\u00ebjm\u00eb durim. Q\u00eb dhe ne do t\u00eb donim t\u00eb ekzistonte dikush q\u00eb do t\u00eb na ndihmonte n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn ton\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijes. Por mendoj se k\u00ebto t\u00eb gjitha jan\u00eb nj\u00eb sfid\u00eb. Nj\u00eb sfid\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb shohim gj\u00ebrat n\u00eb brend\u00ebsi dhe jo n\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaqe. Le t\u00eb jen\u00eb ngacmim p\u00ebr t\u2019u menduar. Mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb rruga, por le t\u00eb njohim t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn q\u00ebllimin.<\/p>\n

Nuk kam p\u00ebr t\u00eb propozuar ndonj\u00eb sistem pedagogjik. Thjesht t\u00eb shfaq p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb personale t\u00eb secilit, t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi persona. T\u00eb funksionojm\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje me nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit. \u201cMarr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia \u00ebsht\u00eb zgjidhja e enigm\u00ebs. Brenda marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies lind kurajoja dhe fuqia e zgjidhjes, akoma dhe pranimi i mos zgjidhjes. Brenda marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies zbulohesh dhe njihesh, p\u00ebrndryshe mbetesh gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb enigm\u00eb e pazgjidhur.<\/p>\n

(Prof. Eroll Velija)<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

M\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnia \u00ebsht\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie midis personit t\u00eb \u00e7do m\u00ebsuesi dhe personit t\u00eb \u00e7do nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi n\u00eb ve\u00e7anti. Kjo se klasa \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri personash dhe jo nj\u00eb grup kompakt uniform. Besoj se…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":14846,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14845","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-reflektim"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14845"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=14845"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14845\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14848,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14845\/revisions\/14848"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/14846"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=14845"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=14845"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=14845"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}