{"id":3731,"date":"2015-10-05T12:15:02","date_gmt":"2015-10-05T11:15:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shekulliagency.com\/?p=3731"},"modified":"2015-10-05T12:15:02","modified_gmt":"2015-10-05T11:15:02","slug":"mediat-gjermane-shkruajne-per-martesat-e-shqiptareve","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/?p=3731","title":{"rendered":"Mediat gjermane shkruajn\u00eb p\u00ebr martesat e shqiptar\u00ebve"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"111-martes-454432\"<\/a>Shqiptari nga Maqedonia, Adem R. nga Mynihu, ka qen\u00eb i detyruar t\u00eb martohet me dhun\u00eb \u2013 P\u00ebr shkak se familja e tij ishte k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00ebse, ai u zhduk\u00eb p\u00ebrnj\u00ebher\u00eb.<\/p>\n

\u201eThjesht\u00eb, dua ta kem jet\u00ebn time personale\u201c, ka deklaruar Adem R. Kjo pun\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb, pasi prind\u00ebrit e 21-vje\u00e7arit e kishin detyruar at\u00eb t\u00eb martohej me nj\u00eb t\u00eb panjohur. Adem R. nuk kishte m\u00eb tjet\u00ebr rrug\u00eb, p\u00ebrpos se u largua nga familja e tij dhe aktualisht jeton n\u00eb Hamburg, n\u00eb nj\u00eb frik\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdueshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos u hetuar nga familja e tij.<\/p>\n

Familja e Ademit vjen nga Maqedonia, nd\u00ebrsa ai n\u00eb Mynih \u00ebsht\u00eb rritur q\u00eb nga mosha e tij pes\u00ebvje\u00e7are. Q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 16-vje\u00e7are, ai e kishte nuhatur planin e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij, kur ata kishin dashur me te t\u00eb udh\u00ebtojn\u00eb n\u00eb Shkup, n\u00eb kryeqytetin e vendlindjes s\u00eb tij. \u201eDo t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb nj\u00eb pushim atje\u201c, i kishin th\u00ebn\u00eb si zakonisht.<\/p>\n

Por, k\u00ebsaj radhe ky ishte vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb pretekst: Vajza me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ai atje \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur ta kaloj\u00eb koh\u00ebn, ka qen\u00eb e parapar\u00eb t\u00eb martohej me te. \u201eN\u00eb fillim kisha frik\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtuar\u201c, rr\u00ebfen Ademi p\u00ebr \u201eMerkur.de\u201c transmeton \u201eShtegu.com\u201c. \u201eVet\u00ebm pas nj\u00eb kohe m\u00eb erdhi vet\u00ebdija dhe fitova besim n\u00eb vetvete p\u00ebr t`i th\u00ebn\u00eb Jo k\u00ebsaj martese\u201c.<\/p>\n

Por, prind\u00ebrit e tij nuk ishin ndalur p\u00ebr ta bindur q\u00eb t\u00eb martohej, duke e marr\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebr festa t\u00eb shumta familjare n\u00ebp\u00ebr Maqedoni. Ademi gjithnj\u00eb kishte kund\u00ebrshtuar, pasi vajzat e ofruara nga Maqedonia kishin qen\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha analfabete dhe sipas tradit\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur t\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesen vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr amvis\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe burrin. Nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, Ademi nuk e d\u00ebshiron: \u201eGjat\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, p\u00ebr mua nuk luan rol se si duhet t\u00eb duket vajza. P\u00ebr mua \u00ebsht\u00eb e pamundur t\u00eb martohem me nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn kam q\u00ebndruar vet\u00ebm disa or\u00eb\u201c.<\/p>\n

Ademi e do nj\u00eb grua nga Gjermania, nj\u00eb martes\u00eb n\u00eb baza dashurie. Familja e tij nuk ka p\u00ebrdorur dhun\u00eb, as edhe arm\u00eb p\u00ebr ta detyruar t\u00eb martohet, por ajo p\u00ebrpiqej q\u00eb ta detyroj\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb psikike. Thirrjet e vazhdueshme t\u00eb familjar\u00ebve dhe ngacmimet e shumta q\u00eb iu b\u00ebn\u00eb, e detyruan Ademin q\u00eb ta braktis\u00eb familjen e tij.<\/p>\n

\u201e\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tradit\u00eb me \u00e7`rast t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit e mi jan\u00eb martuar n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb. Dhe, po q\u00eb se prind\u00ebrit e mi nuk arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb martojn\u00eb edhe mua n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, ata do t\u00eb jen\u00eb gazi i bot\u00ebs\u201c, vazhdon i riu. Ademi dhe familja e tij jan\u00eb mysliman\u00eb, por feja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja e vetme p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb tradit\u00eb: \u201eTradita ka qen\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb e till\u00eb\u201c.<\/p>\n

Nga shok\u00ebt e tij, akush nuk ka qen\u00eb i ballafaquar me nj\u00eb problem t\u00eb ngjash\u00ebm. \u201eUn\u00eb kam vet\u00ebm shok\u00eb gjerman\u00eb dhe askujt nuk i kam treguar, nga frika se ndoshta mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhej edhe m\u00eb keq\u201c. Ademi nuk mund t`rr\u00ebfehet askujt, prandaj para nj\u00eb viti e gjysm\u00eb, ai filloi t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb ndihm\u00eb n\u00eb internet. Ai e gjeti shoqat\u00ebn nga Mynihu \u201eImma\u201c, e cila i k\u00ebshillon personat e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar nga martesa e detyruar.<\/p>\n

\u201eSe ekzistojn\u00eb edhe burra t\u00eb cil\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb detyruar t\u00eb martohen, kjo gj\u00eb po m\u00eb duket e pazakonshme\u201c, ka deklaruar bashk\u00ebpun\u00ebtorja e Imma-s, Bettina G\u00fctscho\u00eb. \u201ePor, ekzistojn\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb martes\u00ebs s\u00eb detyrueshme: Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb burri kund\u00ebrshton, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb gruaja, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb dy. Viktimat zakonisht kan\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn se jan\u00eb t\u00eb vetmuar me problemin e tyre\u201c.<\/p>\n

Edhe Ademi i k\u00ebshillon t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb detyruar t\u00eb martohen, q\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtojn\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb. Po q\u00eb se situata \u00ebsht\u00eb e pashpres\u00eb, zgjidhja e vetme \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fillim i ri n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb qytet tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n

Edhe te Ademi ishte nj\u00eb situat\u00eb e ngjashme. \u201eTek Imma e rr\u00ebfeva t\u00ebr\u00eb historin\u00eb time, me letra t\u00eb hapura. Pa ndihm\u00ebn e k\u00ebsaj shoqate nuk do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb largohesha nga Mynihu\u201c. Edhe pse ai tmerr\u00ebsisht e dashuron Mynihun, ai \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur t\u00eb largohet p\u00ebr n\u00eb Hamburg, pasi nuk ka pasur tjet\u00ebr zgjidhje.<\/p>\n

N\u00eb Hamburg, ai jeton tani vet\u00ebm dhe me frik\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdueshme, pasi mendon se familja e tij mund t`ia gjej\u00eb gjurm\u00ebt. N\u00eb err\u00ebsir\u00eb ai nuk del asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nga banesa, nd\u00ebrsa po t\u00eb dal\u00eb gjat\u00eb dit\u00ebs, ai i vendos syzet e diellit dhe nj\u00eb kapel\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Pasi n\u00eb janar t\u00eb k\u00ebtij viti u kishte th\u00ebn\u00eb prind\u00ebrve se do t\u00eb largohej, ata ishin shokuar. \u201eIshte v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e tmerrshme\u201c, i p\u00ebrkujton momentet Ademi, i cili disa her\u00eb u kishte lajm\u00ebruar p\u00ebr t`i qet\u00ebsuar. Pothuajse m\u00eb shum\u00eb se tre muaj, kontaktin me prind\u00ebrit ai e ka nd\u00ebrprer\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht: \u201eAsnj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb kthehem\u201c.<\/p>\n

Shpres\u00ebn p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, ai ende nuk e ka humbur: Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb duke paramenduar t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb nj\u00eb familje, por p\u00ebr momentin ende nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i gatsh\u00ebm, pasi n\u00eb Hamburg ende nuk ka gjetur pun\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Shqiptari nga Maqedonia, Adem R. nga Mynihu, ka qen\u00eb i detyruar t\u00eb martohet me dhun\u00eb \u2013 P\u00ebr shkak se familja e tij ishte k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00ebse, ai u zhduk\u00eb p\u00ebrnj\u00ebher\u00eb. \u201eThjesht\u00eb, dua…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3732,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3731","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-reflektim"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3731"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3731"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3731\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3733,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3731\/revisions\/3733"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3732"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3731"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3731"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alb.shekulliagency.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3731"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}